I asked myself what would I do if I were mentoring myself. What would I tell myself? It's easy for people to advise friends, yet when it comes to themselves they have trouble. It is useful to think about what you would say if you were giving yourself advice, addressing yourself using your first name.
1. Define a goal or focus that genuinely motivates you. Set small targets that lead to the goal. The targets must be primarily based on your own actions and they must be SMART. Identify the few critical tasks that contribute the most to your goal and scheduling them with very short and clear deadlines, focusing on one thing each day. Be clear about the benefits of achieving your goal and the costs of inaction.
2. Set up a weekly system. Create a regimen and put in habits that allow you to work on the tasks on autopilot. Practice as close to the real challenge as possible. Focus on the process, growing and getting better, not on intelligence or ability. Put in your best effort for the target. Team up with supportive people and coaches who have completed the target or experts who are working on the target. Copy people who are the best at the target. Take advice from people who have achieved what you want and are living the life you want.
3. Fast feedback. Evaluate your results using metrics. Ask for negative feedback. Document what you did well, what you did not do well, what you learnt, and what you can improve on. Review your targets and be open to change. Reward yourself after achieving the target to anchor the positive feeling and inspire more, although you need to also keep your emotions in check.
4. Word hard and persist at it. You have to make mistakes, and try again, without even flinching. Repeat what you did well and work on what you can improve. It will take knowledge and time. Get rid of obstacles and distractions and don't waste time. Keep motivating yourself by enjoying the process and being positive, believing, reinforcing and visualising the goal until the learning and behaviour becomes unconscious and part of your life.
Thoughts become words. Words become actions. Actions become habits. Habits become reality.
The growth you achieve will depend on how determined and committed you are in achieving these targets. It is up to you to achieve your targets and the goal will come. This template helps [1].
You don't need a life coach. Find out what area you want to improve on. Work on that area and find experts to support you.
1. Define a goal or focus that genuinely motivates you. Set small targets that lead to the goal. The targets must be primarily based on your own actions and they must be SMART. Identify the few critical tasks that contribute the most to your goal and scheduling them with very short and clear deadlines, focusing on one thing each day. Be clear about the benefits of achieving your goal and the costs of inaction.
2. Set up a weekly system. Create a regimen and put in habits that allow you to work on the tasks on autopilot. Practice as close to the real challenge as possible. Focus on the process, growing and getting better, not on intelligence or ability. Put in your best effort for the target. Team up with supportive people and coaches who have completed the target or experts who are working on the target. Copy people who are the best at the target. Take advice from people who have achieved what you want and are living the life you want.
3. Fast feedback. Evaluate your results using metrics. Ask for negative feedback. Document what you did well, what you did not do well, what you learnt, and what you can improve on. Review your targets and be open to change. Reward yourself after achieving the target to anchor the positive feeling and inspire more, although you need to also keep your emotions in check.
4. Word hard and persist at it. You have to make mistakes, and try again, without even flinching. Repeat what you did well and work on what you can improve. It will take knowledge and time. Get rid of obstacles and distractions and don't waste time. Keep motivating yourself by enjoying the process and being positive, believing, reinforcing and visualising the goal until the learning and behaviour becomes unconscious and part of your life.
Thoughts become words. Words become actions. Actions become habits. Habits become reality.
The growth you achieve will depend on how determined and committed you are in achieving these targets. It is up to you to achieve your targets and the goal will come. This template helps [1].
You don't need a life coach. Find out what area you want to improve on. Work on that area and find experts to support you.
