Friday, July 3, 2015

Love and Hate

Love makes people happy.

Think about someone saying 'I love life' or 'I'd love to have some Mexican food tonight'. Love arouses feelings of happiness.

Beyond the routine of needs, fulfillment, experience, love, understanding, happiness, and rapture make a person feels more whole, alive, self-sufficient, and a part of the world.

Love is the highest goal to which one can aspire to. Viktor Frankl opined that the salvation of man is through love and in love. The Bible states that God is love and out of hope, faith, and love, the greatest is love. Human poetry is almost exclusively about love. The majority of songs are about love.

The Golden Rule sets the template for love. Love all creatures. Don't hate those who hate; otherwise you become like them. I make an effort to live by the Golden Rule, despite my human shortcomings.

Love is simple. It is not as complicated as some make it out to be. Anyone in the world can experience love, regardless of their intellect.

Love can be cultivated. It is possible to make strangers fall in love by sitting face to face, answering a series of increasingly personal questions, and staring silently into each other’s eyes [1].

At present the only person I truly love is my mum. I know I love being with nature and people. Stress and tension disappear when I am with nature and I know it's something I miss when I neglect it. Being with friends was my number one driver of happiness.

Hate, regret, and jealousy are a waste of time and do not bring happiness. Most negative emotions are useless. Resentment, bitterness, hate, and jealousy do not improve the quality of life.

I can see why people may not reply or reject me. Some people get bombarded with messages and I am simply a random person. If I submit to the compulsion of contacting someone who is not interested in me, it only increases the craving to reconnect and fuels a misguided and self-defeating belief that we'll get back together. There is no benefit for me in sending hateful words or harassing them. It is a waste of my time and emotion.

Jealously arises from a lack of self esteem. I have to get my priorities right and control jealous feelings. It's not about getting someone to be with me. It's about looking after myself and putting my happiness first. I have had too many sad times from pursuing sexual desires that were not reciprocated and frustration from a night out. I vow to not let other people affect my happiness.